How to support a loved one going through recovery

Addiction recovery is a journey that extends far beyond the walls of a rehab centre. It begins the moment someone enrols in a rehab programme, continues during their stay and persists after they complete the programme and return home. In fact, for many, recovery is a lifelong commitment.

As a loved one, there are many points along this timeline where your support can make a difference. However, it’s also crucial to recognise when to step back and allow the person space to work through their own challenges. Knowing when and how to offer help can be confusing, but understanding this balance is key to providing the right support without overwhelming them.

This page offers advice on being supportive throughout the recovery process.

My loved one is in addiction rehab;what can I do to support them?

Supporting a loved one in addiction rehab can indeed be a challenging experience. It’s normal to feel a mix of emotions, from sadness and worry to hope and relief. Adjusting to their absence and the change in your daily routine can be tough, but it’s natural to want to check on them constantly. However, understanding that they need space and time to heal is crucial.

 

Here are some things you can do to support them during this time:

Do’s

✅ Stay positive and encouraging

Keep a positive outlook and provide encouraging words. Let them know you believe in their strength and ability to overcome this challenge. Send uplifting messages and remind them of their progress and the positive future ahead.

✅ Respect their boundaries

Understand and respect the rules of the rehab centre, which may include limited communication. Trust that these boundaries are in place to help them focus on their recovery. When you do communicate, listen more than you speak and offer your support without judgement.

✅ Educate yourself about addiction

Learn about addiction and the recovery process. This knowledge will help you understand what your loved one is going through and how you can better support them. Attend family education sessions if offered by the rehab centre.

✅ Take care of yourself

Your well-being is important, too. Take care of your physical and mental health. Join support groups, seek counselling if needed and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

✅ Plan for the future

Help with planning for their return home. This might include preparing a safe and supportive environment, considering outpatient programmes or finding local support groups. Discuss these plans with your loved one to ensure they feel involved and supported in their transition.

Don’ts

🚫 Constantly contact them

Avoid trying to contact them excessively. While it’s natural to want to check on them, respecting their need for space and time is essential. Over-communication can hinder their focus on recovery.

🚫 Bring up the past

Refrain from bringing up past mistakes or behaviours. Focus on the present and future rather than the past. Reminding them of their past actions can be detrimental to their recovery process and self-esteem.

🚫 Ignore your emotions

Don’t suppress your feelings. Acknowledge and process your emotions, whether it’s through talking with a friend, joining a support group or seeking professional help. Bottling up your feelings can lead to stress and affect your ability to support your loved one effectively.

🚫 Enable their behaviour

Avoid enabling behaviours that might have contributed to their addiction. This includes providing money, making excuses for them or covering up their mistakes. Supporting their recovery means encouraging responsibility and self-sufficiency.

🚫 Expect immediate changes

Recovery is a long and often non-linear process. Don’t expect immediate changes or a quick fix. Be patient and understanding, acknowledging that progress can come with setbacks. Celebrate small victories and remain hopeful.

My loved one has returned home from addiction rehab; what can I do to support them?

Supporting a loved one who has just returned home from addiction rehab is a crucial step in their recovery journey. While they may have made significant progress, it’s essential to remember that recovery is an ongoing process and won’t be immediately fixed. You may notice significant changes in their behaviour and outlook, but they still need your support as they transition back into society and face future challenges.

Here are some ways you can help:

Do’s

✅ Create a safe and supportive environment

Ensure your home is a place where your loved one feels safe and supported. This might involve removing any triggers or substances that could tempt them to relapse. Encouraging a calm and positive atmosphere will promote their well-being and help them feel secure.

✅ Maintain open and honest communication

Keep the lines of communication open and honest. Listen to them without judgment, allowing them to express their feelings and concerns freely. It’s also important to share your own feelings, work together to address any issues that arise and reinforce a sense of mutual trust.

✅ Encourage healthy routines

Help your loved one establish and maintain healthy routines, such as regular exercise, balanced nutrition and adequate sleep. Engaging in activities together that promote a healthy lifestyle can reinforce their recovery and provide a positive structure to their daily life.

✅ Support their aftercare plan

Encourage adherence to their aftercare plan, which may include attending support group meetings, therapy sessions or outpatient programmes. Offering to attend meetings with them or assisting in finding local resources can show your support and help them stay committed to their recovery goals.

✅ Celebrate their progress

Acknowledge and celebrate their milestones and achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Positive reinforcement can boost their confidence and motivation, reminding them of the progress they’ve made and the bright future ahead.

Don’ts

🚫 Criticise or blame them

Avoid criticising or blaming them for past actions or any relapses that may occur. This approach can be detrimental to their self-esteem and recovery process. Instead, focus on the present and future, offering your support with kindness and understanding.

🚫 Ignore warning signs of relapse

Be attentive to any warning signs of relapse, such as noticeable changes in behaviour or mood. Address these signs with care and concern, encouraging them to seek help if needed. Early intervention can prevent a full relapse and help them get back on track.

🚫 Enable unhealthy behaviour

Refrain from enabling any unhealthy behaviours that could jeopardise their recovery. This includes making excuses for them, providing money or allowing them to avoid responsibilities. Encouraging accountability and self-sufficiency is crucial for their long-term success.

🚫 Neglect your own needs

Supporting a loved one in recovery can be emotionally taxing, so it’s important not to neglect your own well-being. Seek support from friends, family or a counsellor to help you cope with your emotions and maintain your own mental health.

🚫 Expect perfection

Recovery is a journey filled with ups and downs and it’s important not to expect perfection from your loved one or yourself. Be patient and understanding, recognising that setbacks can happen. What’s most important is how you both respond and continue to move forward.

The next steps

Supporting a loved one in recovery is a challenging yet incredibly rewarding journey. Your efforts and care make a huge difference in their path to wellness. Remember, if they show signs of relapse or struggle with mental health issues, reaching out to Oasis Bradford can provide the necessary guidance and support. You’re doing an amazing job, and remember that help is always available when needed.